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本书的目的就是帮助你解决你所面临的各种问题:如何在你的日常生活、商务活动与社会交往中与人打交道,并有效地影响他人;如何击败人类的生存之敌——忧虑,以创造一种幸福美好的人生。当你通过本书解决好这一问题之后,其他问题也就迎刃而解了。
内容简介
《人性的弱点全集》的作者戴尔?卡耐基,美国“成人教育之父”。20世纪早期,美国经济陷入萧条,战争和贫困导致人们失去了对美好生活的愿望,而卡耐基独辟蹊径地开创了一套融演讲、推销、为人处世、智能开发于一体的教育方式,他运用社会学和心理学知识,对人性进行了深刻的探讨和分析。《人性的弱点全集》讲述的许多普通人通过奋斗获得成功的真实故事,激励了无数陷和迷茫和困境的人,帮助他们重新找到了自己的人生。
作者简介
戴尔·卡内基(Dale Camegeie),二十世纪著名成功学导师,著作有《语言的突破》、《人性的光辉》、《人性的弱点》、《美好的人生》等。这些书和卡耐基的成人教育实践相辅相成,将卡耐基的人生智慧传播到世界各地,影响了千千万万人的思想和心态,激发了他们对生命的无限热忱与信心,勇敢地面对与搏击现实中的困难,追求自己充实美好的人生。在卡耐基的一生中,林肯的影响非常重要。卡耐基的童年与林肯非常相似,他把林肯的奋斗历程看做是人生的经典。在卡耐基课程中,他多次提到林肯的故事,仿佛林肯就是他的一面镜子。我们从卡耐基对林肯人生的描写中,能够感受到卡耐基对林肯的崇拜之情,能够看到卡耐基理解林肯的独特视角。译者:徐枫,出版有《动物哲学》《感悟人生的113个寓言故事》,翻译作品有《福尔摩斯探案全集》、房龙《人类的故事》《圣经的故事》《宽容》、《富兰克林自传》等。
精彩书评
由卡耐基开创并倡导的个人成功学,已经成为这个时代有志青年迈向成功的阶梯。通过他的传播和教导,使无数人明白了积极心态的意义,并由此改变了他们的命运。卡耐基留给我们的不仅仅是几本书和一所学校,其真正价值是:他把个人成功的技巧传授给了每一个想出人头地的年轻人。
——约翰·肯尼迪(美国第35任总统)
卡耐基作品的目的就是帮助你解决你所面临的*问题:如何在日常生活、商务活动与社会交往中与人打交道,并有效地影响他人;如何克服忧虑,创造幸福美好的人生。当你解决这些问题之后,其他问题也就迎刃而解了。
——拿破仑·希尔(成功学专家、畅销书作者)
成功其实如此简单,只要遵循卡耐基先生这些简单适用的人际标准,你就能获得成功。
——马克·维克多·汉森(《心灵鸡汤》作者)
戴尔·卡耐基先生通过他的演讲和作品,教给人们一些处世的基本原则和生存之道,这是我们每个人都应该学习的人生必修课。
——博恩·崔西(美国著名成功学家、畅销书作者)
在人类出版史上,没有哪本书能像卡耐基的著作那样持久深入人心;也唯有卡耐基的书,才能在他辞世半个世纪后,还能占据我们的排行榜。
——美国《纽约时报》
目录
Eight Things This Book Will Help You Achieve
本书将帮你达到的八项技能 1
How This Book Was Written—And Why By Dale Carnegie
本书的形成,为什么是由戴尔?卡耐基写成的 2
Nine Suggestions on How to Get the Most out of This Book
从本书获得最大教益的九条建议 10
Part One Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
第一篇 人际交往的基本技巧
1 “If You Want to Gather Honey,Don't Kick over the Beehive”/ 第1章 要想
采蜜,就不要踢翻蜂巢 16
2 The Big Secret of Dealing with People / 第2章 与人交往的秘诀 32
3 “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot
Walks a Lonely Way” / 第3章 激发他人的强烈需求 47
Part Two Six Ways to Make People Like You
第二篇 让别人喜欢你的六种方法
1 Do This and You'll Be Welcome Anywhere / 第1章 这样做你就会到处受
欢迎 68
2 A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression / 第2章 产生良好印象的
简单方法 82
3 If You Don't Do This,You Are Headed for Trouble / 第3章 牢记他人的
名字 91
4 An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist / 第4章 如何成为优秀
的谈话家 101
5 How to Interest People / 第5章 如何让别人对你感兴趣 111
6 How to Make People Like You Instantly / 第6章 如何使人马上喜欢你 115
Part Three How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
第三篇 如何赢得别人的赞同
1 You Can't Win an Argument / 第1章 你赢不了争论 130
2 A Sure Way of Making Enemies—And How to Avoid It / 第2章 如何避免
树敌招怨 138
3 If You're Wrong,Admit It / 第3章 勇于承认自己的错误 150
4 A Drop of Honey / 第4章 一切从友善开始 158
5 The Secret of Socrates / 第5章 苏格拉底的秘诀 168
6 The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints / 第6章 处理抱怨的灵丹妙药 175
7 How to Get Co-operation / 第7章 如何赢得合作 181
8 A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You / 第8章 从对方的立场看
问题 187
9 What Everybody Wants / 第9章 每个人都需要的东西 193
10 An Appeal That Everybody Likes / 第10章 激发高尚的动机 202
11 The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don't You Do It? / 第11章 戏剧化地
表达你的意见 208
12 When Nothing Else Works,Try This / 第12章 提出有意义的挑战 213
Part Four Be a Leader: How to Change People without
Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
第四篇 领导艺术:如何改变他人而不招致反感或怨恨
1 If You Must Find Fault,This is the Way to Begin / 第1章 从赞美和欣赏
开始 218
2 How to Criticize—and Not Be Hated for It / 第2章 间接提醒对方的
错误 225
3 Talk about Your Own Mistakes First / 第3章 先谈你自己的错误 229
4 No One Likes to Take Orders / 第4章 没有人喜欢接受命令 234
5 Let the Other Person Save Face / 第5章 让对方保住面子 237
6 How to Spur People on to Success / 第6章 称赞最微小的进步 241
7 Give a Dog a Good Name / 第7章 送人一顶高帽子 247
8 Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct / 第8章 使错误更容易改正 252
9 Making People Glad to Do What You Want / 第9章 使人乐意做你建议
的事 255
Part Five Letters That Produced Miraculous Results
第五篇 创造奇迹的信 / 259
Part Six Seven Rules for Making Your Home Life Happier
第六篇 使你的家庭生活更幸福的七条规则
1 How to Dig Your Marital Grave in the Quickest Possible Way / 第1章 不要挖掘
婚姻的坟墓 270
2 Love and Let Live / 第2章 爱对方,并给他自由 277
3 Do This and You'll Be Looking up the Time-Tables to Reno / 第3章 不要做
无用的批评 280
4 A Quick Way to Make Everybody Happy / 第4章 让每个人都高兴的捷径 282
5 They Mean So Much to a Woman / 第5章 对女人最有意义的事 285
6 If You Want to Be Happy,Don't Neglect This One / 第6章 如果你想快乐,
不要忽视这点 288
7 Don't Be a “Marriage Illiterate” / 第7章 不要做“婚姻的文盲” 292
精彩书摘
Why read this book to find out how to win friends?Why not study the technique of the greatest winner of friends the world has ever known?Who is he?You may meet him tomorrow coming down the street. When you get within ten feet of him,he will begin to wag his tail. If you stop and pat him,he will almost jump out of his skin to show you how much he likes you. And you know that behind this show of affection on his part,there are no ulterior motives: he doesn't want to sell you any real estate,and he doesn't want to marry you.
Did you ever stop to think that a dog is the only animal that doesn't have to work for a living?A hen has to lay eggs,a cow has to give milk,and a canary has to sing. But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love.
When I was five years old,my father bought a yellow-haired pup for fifty cents. He was the light and joy of my childhood. Every afternoon about four-thirty,he would sit in the front yard with his beautiful eyes staring steadfastly at the path,and as soon as he heard my voice or saw me swinging my dinner pail through the buck brush,he was off like a shot,racing breathlessly up the hill to greet me with leaps of joy and barks of sheer ecstasy. Tippy was my constant companion for five years. Then one tragic night—I shall never forget it—he was killed within ten feet of my head,killed by lightning. Tippy's death was the tragedy of my boyhood.
You never read a book on psychology,Tippy. You didn't need to. You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Let me repeat that. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Yet I know and you know people who blunder through life trying to wigwag other people into becoming interested in them. Of course,it doesn't work. People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves—morning,noon and after dinner. The New York Telephone Company made a derailed study of telephone conversations to find out which word is the most frequently used. You have guessed it: it is the personal pronoun “I.” “I.” “I.”It was used 3900 times in 500 telephone conversations. “I.” “I.” “I.” “I.” When you see a group photograph that you are in,whose picture do you look for first?If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us,we will never have many true,sincere friends. Friends,real friends,are not made that way.
Alfred Adler,the famous Viennese psychologist,wrote a book entitled What Life Should Mean to You. In that book he says,“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
You may read scores of erudite tomes on psychology without coming across a statement more significant for you and for me. Adler's statement is so rich with meaning that I am going to repeat it in italices: It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.
I once took a course in short-story writing at New York University,and during that course the editor of a leading magazine talked to our class. He said he could pick up any one of the dozens of stories that drifted across his desk every day and after reading a few paragraphs he could feel whether or not the author liked people. “If the author doesn't like people,” he said,“people won't like his or her stories.”
This hard-boiled editor stopped twice in the course of his talk on fiction writing and apologized for preaching a sermon. “I am telling you,” he said,“the same things your preacher would tell you,but remember,you have to be interested in people if you want to be a successful writer of stories.”
If that is true of writing fiction,you can be sure it is true of dealing with people face-to-face.
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