編輯推薦
本書的目的就是幫助你解決你所麵臨的各種問題:如何在你的日常生活、商務活動與社會交往中與人打交道,並有效地影響他人;如何擊敗人類的生存之敵——憂慮,以創造一種幸福美好的人生。當你通過本書解決好這一問題之後,其他問題也就迎刃而解瞭。
內容簡介
《人性的弱點全集》的作者戴爾?卡耐基,美國“成人教育之父”。20世紀早期,美國經濟陷入蕭條,戰爭和貧睏導緻人們失去瞭對美好生活的願望,而卡耐基獨闢蹊徑地開創瞭一套融演講、推銷、為人處世、智能開發於一體的教育方式,他運用社會學和心理學知識,對人性進行瞭深刻的探討和分析。《人性的弱點全集》講述的許多普通人通過奮鬥獲得成功的真實故事,激勵瞭無數陷和迷茫和睏境的人,幫助他們重新找到瞭自己的人生。
作者簡介
戴爾·卡內基(Dale Camegeie),二十世紀著名成功學導師,著作有《語言的突破》、《人性的光輝》、《人性的弱點》、《美好的人生》等。這些書和卡耐基的成人教育實踐相輔相成,將卡耐基的人生智慧傳播到世界各地,影響瞭韆韆萬萬人的思想和心態,激發瞭他們對生命的無限熱忱與信心,勇敢地麵對與搏擊現實中的睏難,追求自己充實美好的人生。在卡耐基的一生中,林肯的影響非常重要。卡耐基的童年與林肯非常相似,他把林肯的奮鬥曆程看做是人生的經典。在卡耐基課程中,他多次提到林肯的故事,仿佛林肯就是他的一麵鏡子。我們從卡耐基對林肯人生的描寫中,能夠感受到卡耐基對林肯的崇拜之情,能夠看到卡耐基理解林肯的獨特視角。譯者:徐楓,齣版有《動物哲學》《感悟人生的113個寓言故事》,翻譯作品有《福爾摩斯探案全集》、房龍《人類的故事》《聖經的故事》《寬容》、《富蘭剋林自傳》等。
精彩書評
由卡耐基開創並倡導的個人成功學,已經成為這個時代有誌青年邁嚮成功的階梯。通過他的傳播和教導,使無數人明白瞭積極心態的意義,並由此改變瞭他們的命運。卡耐基留給我們的不僅僅是幾本書和一所學校,其真正價值是:他把個人成功的技巧傳授給瞭每一個想齣人頭地的年輕人。
——約翰·肯尼迪(美國第35任總統)
卡耐基作品的目的就是幫助你解決你所麵臨的*問題:如何在日常生活、商務活動與社會交往中與人打交道,並有效地影響他人;如何剋服憂慮,創造幸福美好的人生。當你解決這些問題之後,其他問題也就迎刃而解瞭。
——拿破侖·希爾(成功學專傢、暢銷書作者)
成功其實如此簡單,隻要遵循卡耐基先生這些簡單適用的人際標準,你就能獲得成功。
——馬剋·維剋多·漢森(《心靈雞湯》作者)
戴爾·卡耐基先生通過他的演講和作品,教給人們一些處世的基本原則和生存之道,這是我們每個人都應該學習的人生必修課。
——博恩·崔西(美國著名成功學傢、暢銷書作者)
在人類齣版史上,沒有哪本書能像卡耐基的著作那樣持久深入人心;也唯有卡耐基的書,纔能在他辭世半個世紀後,還能占據我們的排行榜。
——美國《紐約時報》
目錄
Eight Things This Book Will Help You Achieve
本書將幫你達到的八項技能 1
How This Book Was Written—And Why By Dale Carnegie
本書的形成,為什麼是由戴爾?卡耐基寫成的 2
Nine Suggestions on How to Get the Most out of This Book
從本書獲得最大教益的九條建議 10
Part One Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
第一篇 人際交往的基本技巧
1 “If You Want to Gather Honey,Don't Kick over the Beehive”/ 第1章 要想
采蜜,就不要踢翻蜂巢 16
2 The Big Secret of Dealing with People / 第2章 與人交往的秘訣 32
3 “He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot
Walks a Lonely Way” / 第3章 激發他人的強烈需求 47
Part Two Six Ways to Make People Like You
第二篇 讓彆人喜歡你的六種方法
1 Do This and You'll Be Welcome Anywhere / 第1章 這樣做你就會到處受
歡迎 68
2 A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression / 第2章 産生良好印象的
簡單方法 82
3 If You Don't Do This,You Are Headed for Trouble / 第3章 牢記他人的
名字 91
4 An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist / 第4章 如何成為優秀
的談話傢 101
5 How to Interest People / 第5章 如何讓彆人對你感興趣 111
6 How to Make People Like You Instantly / 第6章 如何使人馬上喜歡你 115
Part Three How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
第三篇 如何贏得彆人的贊同
1 You Can't Win an Argument / 第1章 你贏不瞭爭論 130
2 A Sure Way of Making Enemies—And How to Avoid It / 第2章 如何避免
樹敵招怨 138
3 If You're Wrong,Admit It / 第3章 勇於承認自己的錯誤 150
4 A Drop of Honey / 第4章 一切從友善開始 158
5 The Secret of Socrates / 第5章 蘇格拉底的秘訣 168
6 The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints / 第6章 處理抱怨的靈丹妙藥 175
7 How to Get Co-operation / 第7章 如何贏得閤作 181
8 A Formula That Will Work Wonders for You / 第8章 從對方的立場看
問題 187
9 What Everybody Wants / 第9章 每個人都需要的東西 193
10 An Appeal That Everybody Likes / 第10章 激發高尚的動機 202
11 The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don't You Do It? / 第11章 戲劇化地
錶達你的意見 208
12 When Nothing Else Works,Try This / 第12章 提齣有意義的挑戰 213
Part Four Be a Leader: How to Change People without
Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
第四篇 領導藝術:如何改變他人而不招緻反感或怨恨
1 If You Must Find Fault,This is the Way to Begin / 第1章 從贊美和欣賞
開始 218
2 How to Criticize—and Not Be Hated for It / 第2章 間接提醒對方的
錯誤 225
3 Talk about Your Own Mistakes First / 第3章 先談你自己的錯誤 229
4 No One Likes to Take Orders / 第4章 沒有人喜歡接受命令 234
5 Let the Other Person Save Face / 第5章 讓對方保住麵子 237
6 How to Spur People on to Success / 第6章 稱贊最微小的進步 241
7 Give a Dog a Good Name / 第7章 送人一頂高帽子 247
8 Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct / 第8章 使錯誤更容易改正 252
9 Making People Glad to Do What You Want / 第9章 使人樂意做你建議
的事 255
Part Five Letters That Produced Miraculous Results
第五篇 創造奇跡的信 / 259
Part Six Seven Rules for Making Your Home Life Happier
第六篇 使你的傢庭生活更幸福的七條規則
1 How to Dig Your Marital Grave in the Quickest Possible Way / 第1章 不要挖掘
婚姻的墳墓 270
2 Love and Let Live / 第2章 愛對方,並給他自由 277
3 Do This and You'll Be Looking up the Time-Tables to Reno / 第3章 不要做
無用的批評 280
4 A Quick Way to Make Everybody Happy / 第4章 讓每個人都高興的捷徑 282
5 They Mean So Much to a Woman / 第5章 對女人最有意義的事 285
6 If You Want to Be Happy,Don't Neglect This One / 第6章 如果你想快樂,
不要忽視這點 288
7 Don't Be a “Marriage Illiterate” / 第7章 不要做“婚姻的文盲” 292
精彩書摘
Why read this book to find out how to win friends?Why not study the technique of the greatest winner of friends the world has ever known?Who is he?You may meet him tomorrow coming down the street. When you get within ten feet of him,he will begin to wag his tail. If you stop and pat him,he will almost jump out of his skin to show you how much he likes you. And you know that behind this show of affection on his part,there are no ulterior motives: he doesn't want to sell you any real estate,and he doesn't want to marry you.
Did you ever stop to think that a dog is the only animal that doesn't have to work for a living?A hen has to lay eggs,a cow has to give milk,and a canary has to sing. But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love.
When I was five years old,my father bought a yellow-haired pup for fifty cents. He was the light and joy of my childhood. Every afternoon about four-thirty,he would sit in the front yard with his beautiful eyes staring steadfastly at the path,and as soon as he heard my voice or saw me swinging my dinner pail through the buck brush,he was off like a shot,racing breathlessly up the hill to greet me with leaps of joy and barks of sheer ecstasy. Tippy was my constant companion for five years. Then one tragic night—I shall never forget it—he was killed within ten feet of my head,killed by lightning. Tippy's death was the tragedy of my boyhood.
You never read a book on psychology,Tippy. You didn't need to. You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Let me repeat that. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Yet I know and you know people who blunder through life trying to wigwag other people into becoming interested in them. Of course,it doesn't work. People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves—morning,noon and after dinner. The New York Telephone Company made a derailed study of telephone conversations to find out which word is the most frequently used. You have guessed it: it is the personal pronoun “I.” “I.” “I.”It was used 3900 times in 500 telephone conversations. “I.” “I.” “I.” “I.” When you see a group photograph that you are in,whose picture do you look for first?If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us,we will never have many true,sincere friends. Friends,real friends,are not made that way.
Alfred Adler,the famous Viennese psychologist,wrote a book entitled What Life Should Mean to You. In that book he says,“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
You may read scores of erudite tomes on psychology without coming across a statement more significant for you and for me. Adler's statement is so rich with meaning that I am going to repeat it in italices: It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.
I once took a course in short-story writing at New York University,and during that course the editor of a leading magazine talked to our class. He said he could pick up any one of the dozens of stories that drifted across his desk every day and after reading a few paragraphs he could feel whether or not the author liked people. “If the author doesn't like people,” he said,“people won't like his or her stories.”
This hard-boiled editor stopped twice in the course of his talk on fiction writing and apologized for preaching a sermon. “I am telling you,” he said,“the same things your preacher would tell you,but remember,you have to be interested in people if you want to be a successful writer of stories.”
If that is true of writing fiction,you can be sure it is true of dealing with people face-to-face.
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