Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey
This book is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
##what happened to you is what is happening to you
评分##聊天的形式很chill,有声书果然才是这本书的正确打开方式。虽然内容老生常谈了些,不过对于才刚开始进行原生家庭“自我救赎”的人来讲倒也挺合适的。唯一不能苟同的是最后Oprah讲她原谅自己母亲的故事:也许对她而言这样做无可厚非,但与此同时人们也绝不该为自己迟迟不肯原谅父母而感到彷徨自责,毕竟不是所有父母都值得被原谅的,更何况很多时候,你以为的forgiveness其实只是为父母找的借口而已。 总之 祝我们都能早日拥有post traumatic wisdom吧????
评分##绝不原谅施虐者
评分##what happened to you is what is happening to you
评分##是一个创伤心理治疗师,从自己原生家庭里面,幼年不幸的成长,到文末和去世的母亲和解,而在这些年里,她一直在扮演找寻发现如何帮助人们从创伤中解决出来,和一些避免后续创伤的前期预防性建议。从对这个世界定义开始,在从平衡从爱从创伤后期创伤,和我们的大脑等多物理病理角度阐述。教我们换个角度看待世界,可以从What happened to you来寻根溯源。有人利用原生家庭作为原罪来惩罚囚困自己,也有人利用原生家庭,来寻根溯源,找更好的方法解救自己,甚至解救身边的人。始终是可以由自己来抉择的。
评分##前本部关于developmental trauma的neurobiology 太实用了,实例也很有力。后半部关于response/intervention貌似有些redundant且草草了事泛泛而谈的感觉
评分##一个个心碎的故事,早期创伤分析.
评分##非常科学系统的分析了trauma以及影响,不像一般的self-help书只给可以简单复制的小帖士。最后一段直接给我听哭了。
评分##Super readable because of its conversational style. Maybe not entirely earth-shattering, but great stuff for sure.
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